The bad news is: ‘You cannot make people like, love, understand, validate, accept, or be nice to you. You can’t control them either.’ Not all people are going to see you as the wonderful, amazing being that you are.
You Cannot Force Someone to See You the Way That You Would Like Them To
It’s just part of the world we live in. It’s part of what makes this world such a wonderful place – that people have the ability to be who they want to be – the ability to make their own choices. And just because people have the ability to make their own choices, it doesn’t mean they will always make the right choice, or even agree on what the right choice is.
You Cannot Control Other People’s Thoughts or Actions
You can not force others to see you the way you want to be seen. You can only control your own thoughts and actions. So, if someone is not treating you the way you would like to be treated – then you have to look at the situation in terms of what you can and cannot control. You can change how you interact with those people. You can confront them, in hopes that discussing the issues with help resolve them. You can try to influence how they see you, by continuing to be yourself, and essentially ‘killing them with kindness’ – as the saying goes. Or you can remove yourself from the situation. These are all choices you can make – choices that you can control.
It Doesn’t Matter How Others See You, It Only Matters How You See Yourself
The good news is: ‘It doesn’t matter.’ It doesn’t matter if someone doesn’t like you, or doesn’t see you the way you want to be seen. One person or group’s opinion of you really doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things. That’s also a great part of people being able to make their own decisions. Some people may choose to treat you one way, while others can choose to treat you another way. And you can choose if and when you want any of those people in your life.
So, the choice is up to you! If you stay focused on how you see yourself and how you would like others to see and treat you – then you have all of the control to decide who and what does or doesn’t matter to you.
Counseling Can Help You Build Confidence and Stay Focused on What You Can Control
Elemental Mental Health offers online counseling services that can help you build up your confidence and learn to focus on yourself. Counseling can teach you how to take control in the areas that you can control and how to deal with situations that you can’t.
For more information about online counseling services for residents of Georgia and Texas, contact Elemental Mental Health.